The Illusion of a Turning Point: Should You Be Waiting for One Point to Change Your Life Forever?

Days keep passing by, some are special enough to linger, and some are just plain replicas of previous ones. We too often keep hanging on to the idea that one day everything is going to change; constantly fantasizing over that grand rewarding day where everything adds up or falls into place. But do good things happen to those who wait with patience or do they always work in favor of those who kick down their own doors open?

What if that strike of luck doesn’t just come through simply waiting? What if the turning point most of us are waiting for is the point where we realize that we create our own destiny; that the turning point is more of a phase than actually a point? Maybe it is the mere realization that we have way more control over our lives than we think we do.

Upon reaching the realization of the depth of our control, we start slowly looking at the bigger picture and identifying our possibilities and the things we might need to change. These changes can include our perspectives, lifestyle, choices etc. In general, it is the noticing of how unlimited our options in life could be and how we might’ve been often too involved in our own comfort-zone cubicle to concentrate on the good things we could be missing out on.

Although the idea of change might be scary to an extent, I’ve always believed that there was a way to think about the possibilities as empowering rather than scary. There must’ve been a few times at least where your shifting of thoughts toward some of the aspects in your life somehow inspired you into exploring some new horizons that re-kindled your passion or made you feel more alive than you would’ve imagined.

Therefore, it is only fair to our present and future selves that we take a deep breath every once in a while and see if we’re chasing after what we really want from life or simply just serving our younger selves’ expectations. It might take time –and that’s okay- but eventually we realize that we can fit in way more places than our younger selves’ have pictured for us. And that’s how we start learning that we don’t need to condemn our whole lives to choices that were made years ago.

Our choices in life are meant to take us where we want to go not tie us down to a certain path. And as soon as we acknowledge that, we start realizing that we are never really too old to pick up a new hobby, start a new job, take extra classes, leave a group of friends or exit an abusive relationship. We realize the sweet relief of knowing that we have all the time in the world to get somewhere where we feel more at ease. At the end of the day, we are all looking for a little extra spark that lights our way and gives us the warmth of belonging somewhere we want to be at.

“For what it’s worth… it’s never too late, or in my case too early, to be whoever you want to be. There’s no time limit. Start whenever you want. You can change or stay the same. There are no rules to this thing. We can make the best or the worst of it. I hope you make the best of it. I hope you see things that startle you. I hope you feel things you’ve never felt before. I hope you meet people who have a different point of view. I hope you live a life you’re proud of, and if you’re not, I hope you have the courage to start over again.”- F. Scott Fitzgerald