The fear of getting exposed to new people everyday is what keeps us anti-social, somehow. That being said, just because you’re unhappy with your usual weekend plans doesn’t mean you’re stuck, and there are a number of habits you can adopt to help improve your social life. It’s never too late to start meeting new people and doing interesting things, and you’ll likely see your life improve for the better.
Fear of rejection stops a lot of people from developing a social life, says relationship expert April Masini over email to The Bustle Magazine. “They fear that they won’t be wanted or desired and that their romantic feelings won’t be returned in kind. Additionally, lack of creativity is often a barrier for people who get stuck in social lives they’d rather change. They just don’t know how to get out of their ruts.”
Here is your nudge, in six parts:
1.Invite a co-worker out for lunch:
If someone is new to your workplace, make them feel welcome by inviting them for lunch. Or if you have an old work mate, go out for coffee and something sweet beside the talk.
2. Host a dinner party:
Start small with perhaps just four or five people. Make as much of the meal ahead of time as you can, and be sure you have enough essentials on hand, such as napkins, chairs and silverware—preferably not when the party is five minutes from starting.
3. Get Gardening:
The benefits of hanging out in green spaces and nurturing plants have been well documented, so if your home only stretches to a tiny shelf holding a tired cactus, then apply for a space in a neighborhood allotment or community garden. The benefits of hanging out in green spaces and nurturing plants have been well documented, so if your home only stretches to a tiny shelf holding a tired cactus, then apply for a space in a neighborhood allotment or community garden.
4. Go solo:
Many restaurants now have counters or bars where you can comfortably sit as a single and watch the goings-on all around you.Bring a book or tablet and read if you feel you need something to keep you occupied while you eat.
5. Learn a new skill:
Start learning that language you have always wanted to, try cooking that meal, or learn how to cycle! Whatever it is that you have been keen on learning, it is the time.
6.Turn off your computer:
Take a break from technology! Instead of buying something online, go to a bookstore or record shop. If a store is independently owned, you have a better chance of real interaction and recommendations from the people working there.
Always remember, life is better shared!