How social media ruins our lives.

As much as we believe that social media helps us be more connected to anyone specially to our loved ones, but it also has a negative impact that rarely anyone of us notice.
Researchers at Harvard learned through a study that the act of disclosing information about oneself activates the same part of the brain that is associated with the sensation of pleasure, the same pleasure that we get from eating food, getting money or even having sex. With this addictive power, social media has the power to change our lives dramatically, and not always for the better.
Communication is a must for any relationship to succeed, but to build all your communication with someone behind a screen, that’s definitely a bad idea.
We judge people from a couple of letters they type, whether they put an emoji or not, whether they feel our pain and care to listen and help or not, whether they’re serious or just being sarcastic, honest or pretending and hiding the truth; that we forget how crucial it is to actually see people, look at their facial expressions, call them and listen to their voice. Social media made people underestimate the power of true communication that a whole relationship can end or begin over a chat, how can this be possible?
We need to value our relationships and give more time to real life communication than build our lives over the mobile.
And aside from this, social media triggers us to judge people’s lives that we instantly assume what they’re feeling and how they live their lives. What appears to us isn’t always the truth. People choose to post what they want you to see and write only what they want you to know, which is always half of their actual life. For example, facebook does make people feel good: but a study proved that 38 percent of respondents said that using the social network felt pleasurable. But when asked which emotion they felt most when using Facebook, “envy” was the most common response.
They might be fighting a struggle you know nothing about, or in constant conflict with a severe depression. Some might be having a failed marriage for instance, or a screwed up relationship with their best friends. Some even might be pretending to be someone they’re not. Because, most of the time people on Facebook are trying to show their good sides, not their bad sides, but when envy goes up, emotional and social well-being comes down, increasing feelings of loneliness, sadness and stress. People end up unhappy because of the disparities between one’s life expectations, economic reality, and disillusioned portrayals on social media.
Moreover, Jaimie Bloch, a psychologist and clinical director, said that platforms like Snapchat, Facebook and Instagram, create an environment that is based on rating people and earning approval through likes, reposts and comments. Being bombarded with images of perfection, perfect bodies, perfect make up, perfect faces can leave people feeling quite down about themselves because you’re mislead to believe that this is reality. This type of research has uncovered that adolescent girls and young women are the most vulnerable and affected by social media and it creates mental and physical anxiety.
As much as social media does have a lot of positives, we should not let its negatives control our lives, to makes us too indulged in trying to communicate over the internet that we neglect the real-life communication. We should appreciate a time with less mobiles; for the pressure of having to be always available or responsive can create overwhelming feelings of anxiety and can make you feel like you are constantly switched on, allowing no room or space to switch off and relax.