A lot of us go through break ups that only leave us with second thoughts, doubts about ourselves and an aching heart that overwhelmingly seeps pain all over our beings. We keep thinking, can the pain get any worse? Actually, it can get less worse.
1- Face your pain
You don’t need to block him/her from everything; you actually need to do exactly the opposite. Facing the one thing that causes you pain actually helps in making you come to terms with it and accept it. Escaping and denying this would only make things worse. And Remember this, it’s not your fault that this relationship did not succeed, that doesn’t make you a bad person. Best case scenario, it wasn’t forever as you had intended, it was only a lesson that you needed to grasp through this experience.
2- Don’t dwell over your sadness
Yes your heart is broken, you might even be sleepless at night everyday; crying your pain away. The pain exists, but it won’t last forever. That’s why you need to open up, go out, meet new people, and most importantly, surround yourself with people you love. Remind yourself that just because you lost someone whom at some point meant everything to you, doesn’t mean that all the beauty in the world is lost, and it doesn’t mean that you yourself is lost. It might be a wrong turn, one with obstacles and mischiefs, but you had to walk through it to know how to avoid it.
3- Understand that it will take time
You need to know that you cannot force your heart into healing itself from pain, or force your mind to forget everything about him/her. You will keep reminiscing over the memories, that’s a fact! But, you need to endure this with a determination that you can and you will be okay. That your heart might be broken now, but it will heal. Take all the time you need, breathe away the burden, have faith that you CAN be the fighter you thought you’re not and restore the faith you thought was lost.
4- Believe in yourself
You are much stronger than you think you are. As much as this relationship has consumed you and left you with the belief that you’re not good enough, or that you won’t be able to love again; at the end of the day, it’s only a thought twirling in your head forced by the intolerable hurt that you think has power over your whole being. Choose to overcome this pain, bit by bit, one step at a time; knowing that you’ll get there, that you can do it on your own, that you don’t need another heart to make yours beat.
5- Don’t let the pain take away your passion of doing what you love
In a time like this, the best thing to do is to keep doing what you love, let the pain be the fuel that moves you and a motivation for you to be better, do better, and keep pursuing your passions and dreams. Seeing yourself succeed in what you love most, will restore your self-confidence and replaces the sadness that devours your soul, with a blossoming heart filled with the hope that today might not be the best of days, but tomorrow will definitely be better.
Every ending brings with it a new beginning. You and only you have the power to choose whether to let the pain kills you, or makes you stronger. Choose wisely, choose yourself, and leave the world behind.