What Self Care Really Means

Have you ever stopped for a moment and thought; but what the hell is self-care anyway? It occurs to me that people on the internet have restricted self-care to the following activities.

Having salt baths

Lighting Candles

Going to the Spa

Don’t get me wrong, I understand that these are great ways to help you de-stress and feel good about yourself. Sure, lighting some scented candles and drinking hot chocolate will make you feel bubbly inside. However, it strikes me that these things are all cute temporary. Sometimes, if not very often, self-care is hard work.


Self-care means that put yourself first. It is listening to yourself. You might let some people down. You might say no to an extra work shift because you need time off. It isn’t always pretty, you see. It takes guts to do.

There is no manual for self-care. It depends on you. It all comes down to what you want to achieve in life. Do you want to stay in shape? Then, you take care of your body. You might need to exercise. You might hate it at first because you don’t like feeling sore and sweating. Sure, but you should understand that self-care isn’t just about treating yourself. It’s about making decisions for your long-term wellness.

It is more of a mental activity than a physical one. It takes a lot of power. You do what’s good for you, not what looks good. You might say no to an invitation because deep down you know your friend is a toxic person. You learn to trust yourself even if you don’t completely feel like it.

At the end of the day, it’s about balance. You make some difficult choices for the long run and allow yourself to enjoy little things in the moment. Just like everything in life, it isn’t all fun and games. You need a little of both!