Let me begin by stating the obvious; relationships are messy. And even though beginnings are often the most beautiful phase of the relationship, but there’s this part before the beginning that we almost always ignore.. Somehow, understanding the opposite sex is harder than understanding rocket science. The scenario always goes as follows, you meet someone and you start to catch feelings and you finally know that you have a crush on them, and the drama begins. You tend to glorify all the small moments and daydream about them and ignore all the negative ones, until they finally hit you and leave you wondering what was all of this about.. Having selective memory is a curse in this case, because you just choose to ignore the obvious, which is why we’re here to point out that if this happens with you, then he’s most probably not that into you.
- You two barely even talk
And I’m not talking about you being a needy and clingy person, but if he’s attracted to you then you’ll definitely be talking every once in a while. When someone is interested, they would want to communicate just to know more about you or for the mere fact that they enjoy talking to you.
- When you talk, it’s always you taking the initiative
You don’t have to play hard to get and all that useless stuff. However, you need to see him putting effort in building this relationship. If that’s not the case, if he never showed that he cares enough to take you out or start a conversation every once in a while, then do yourself a favor and move on.
- Short answers
Again with the communication. In the beginning of a relationship, when you two don’t know much about each other, the flow of conversation should be easy-going. There’s a lot to talk about, everyone is still like a mystery that needs to be solved. The conversation should be a two-way or a dialogue, you shouldn’t be talking all on your own. If his answers are always short and his responses simply lead to ending the conversation, then that’s a sign that you should put in mind.
- Eye contacts
This is a rule of thumb, if he likes you, you’ll probably catch him looking you in the eyes a couple of times. You’ll see it in his eyes, the way he looks at you when he talks, you’ll know it when it happens. If you don’t get that look, then that’s probably one more sign that he’s just not that into you.
- You’re always waiting
You’re always waiting for something. A text, a call, a date,…,etc. You always feel like you’re waiting for something to happen so that things move forward. But you should know that you’re better than this, you shouldn’t be waiting so long. I bet you’re smart enough and you’ll know when it’s the right time to walk away.
At the end of the day, people are different and so are relationships. However, you should feel that the other party is at least putting some effort to keep you around. If you don’t see it, then he’s probably just not that into you. And it’s fine, because at the end of the day if it didn’t happen, then it’s not meant to be. You’ll move on and things will be fine, I promise..